I hate to say it but I am beginning to learn that the number of divorces in Christian couples is just as high as that of non-christian couples.  Ugh!!

I recently found out a family that my family has been friends with for a very long time is going through it right now.  I grew up with this guy and his brother.  His name is Ryan he got married to a girl everyone considered a disrespectful whore all through high school, but when they got married everyone made believed she had gotten her life together.  Now he is in tears possibly filing for custody of their child and for divorce because she had an affair with another man and is now pregnant by him.  I am so hurt because he is such a good guy and doesn’t deserve to be treated this way.  It is woman like her that give other females a bad name.

My marriage is in 7 days, things like this scare me, but I have learned something.  If you are truly grounded in Christ and realize that it takes 2 people not giving 50/50 but giving 100/100 to make a relationship work.  If you only give 50/50 you are only giving half of yourself.

My fiancee and I have only been together for 6 months on the 9th, even though we have known each other longer than that and been friends beyond that, but in that 6 months we have learned to establish trust, communication, respect and love.  To me those are the three key elements to a relationship.  Maybe I should have told my friend Ryan that before he married his wife, knowing that my best friend and I already knew what she was about, but as always people have to learn on their own.  People can’t change until they want to!!